Should I Change My Name When I Get Married?

I’m getting married in 5 weeks (!) and I’ve started wondering – should I change my name?

Not my last name, silly.  “Wruble” is too much a part of me.  Wrubes.  A-Dub.  Amy Roooo.  Ruby Tuesday.  Arugula.  Wruble-loo.  Wruby.  Where do the nicknames go if you change your name?

Besides, Google loves “Wruble.”  There are only like six of us on the planet, so I’m highly searchable, which is great for a freelance writer and bad if the internet had been around when I was in college.

Nope, the name I was thinking of changing is Carriage Before Marriage.

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How Do You Come Back From A Bake Sale #BakeFail?

Do you remember last fall I was so excited to bake for our first preschool bakesale?

Then came one of those freakish fall heat waves we have in southern California, and by 5 minutes into the bake sale my chocolate-dipped pretzel rods had melted into a sticky mess.  Didn’t sell a single one.  I should have taken a photo for you but I was too sad.  Picture that horror movie The House of Wax and just imagine everyone covered in chocolate and sprinkles.


Me and baking don’t naturally go together. I still confuse baking soda with baking powder.  But I’m determined to figure it out.  And it’s a fun activity to do with my daughter, who is suddenly an amazingly helpful person when there is a possiblity of spoon licking in her near future. Read More »

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Brushing Toddler Teeth: Easier With Aquafresh Training Toothpaste

Even on my laziest parenting days, when I microwave leftovers and skip the bath, I never skimp on teeth brushing.  I feel so responsible for cleaning my daughter’s mini pearly whites, especially given her love of sugary treats.  Of course, my kid doesn’t always appreciate my good intentions, clamping her mouth shut when it’s time to brush, or running away.  

Recently, I got some much needed help from Aquafresh—the little mouth experts™.  When a package containing their apple-banana flavored training toothpaste and colorful training toothbrush arrived, my daughter was immediately intrigued, asking if she could try them. Why, yes! (And let me just hold up this “modesty washcloth” so I can photograph you doing so.)  


Actual quote from my daughter: “Mom, this toothpaste is so yummy.  I can taste the apple AND the banana.”  She sucked down the first glob of toothpaste and asked for more.  Luckily, it’s safe to swallow because it’s fluoride-free, which our pediatric dentist recommends until kids are old enough to swish and spit.  


A good taste really helps my tooth brushing cause, especially since I once traumatized my daughter by accidentally putting my adult mint toothpaste on her brush.  She ran around yelping like I’d laced it with hot sauce.

Of course, sometimes it takes more than tasty flavor to get the job done.  Some of my favorite ways to get my daughter’s teeth brushed are: Read More »

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Should You Hide Veggies in Your Kids’ Food?

It’s my fault. If I’d just eaten more zucchini during my pregnancy, my daughter might have been a vegetable lover.  Instead, I ate a cheese sandwich every day for nine months, which may or may not explain her passion for quesadillas.  These days, if I want my kid to eat something green, my best bet is a lime popsicle.   

Like many moms, I’ve considered hiding veggies inside favorite foods, going so far as to buy Jessica Seinfeld’s “Deceptively Delicious” cookbook.  Seinfeld’s recipes certainly look delicious.  The deceptive part is how labor intensive they are, requiring a wide variety of home-made purees to be incorporated in every dish.   And my blender’s a pain to wash.

I’ve got mixed feelings about dietary deception anyway.  I mean, if you can slip some kale into a mango banana smoothie unnoticed, I say go for it.  But if veggies are always hidden beneath other flavors, how will kids ever develop a taste for them?  Plus, part of the pleasure of vegetables is color and texture – crunchy carrots, bumpy broccoli, bright bell peppers. And you can’t dip a puree into ranch dressing, am I right?

Keep reading, and find out why my daughter eats bell peppers in the bath, at Lifetime Moms

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The Day I Became A Mother (A Bed Rest Story)

The lovely Anna at Misadventures in Motherhood asked me to write this guest post as part of series that raises awareness for women’s health org Every Mother Counts

We thought we were out of the woods.  After several early miscarriages, I was finally pregnant with a healthy baby girl who had passed her amnio with flying colors.  I’d stopped fearing the worst and was enjoying my second trimester, especially eating for two and flaunting my bump.

Then, during the 22-week ultrasound, I heard the technician say “Uh oh.”  The baby was still fine, thank God, but my cervix wasn’t.  It had shortened and funneled (I pictured the tornado from The Wizard of Oz) and could not be relied upon to keep my baby safe in the womb until her due date.  I was at high risk for preterm labor.

It wasn’t good news, but I didn’t realize how serious my condition was until a doctor strapped me to a monitor to check for contractions. When I offered him a peek at our new ultrasound picture, he glanced away, muttering, “I probably shouldn’t look at that just yet.”  I could tell he thought my baby might not make it, and I dissolved into tears.     

The only hope for my baby was strict bed rest.  I quit my job and settled into the couch on the first floor of our townhouse apartment.  I was allowed to get up only to use the bathroom or grab a drink, and was told to avoid the stairs.  Sex was forbidden. I couldn’t even do kegels. 

Bed rest might sound like a nice holiday, but when you’re healthy and energetic, laying still 24/7 doesn’t feel right.  I was antsy and tense, unable to concentrate on television and magazines because I was so scared.  I spent most of my time with my iPad propped on my belly, googling “incompetent cervix” and studying viability rates for premature babies.  I knew I had to do whatever it took to save my daughter.         

Are you in suspense?  Continue reading at Misadventures in Motherhood.
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