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Dave is super easy going about the wedding planning.  Usually we’re in sync, and if we’re not, he’ll defer to Bridezilla.  Except on this one issue:

No video.  He’s putting his foot down.

Photo via WeddingClan.com

Photo via WeddingClan.com

“I want to experience our wedding, not record it.”  He tells me.   He’s thought about this.

Pre-baby, we used to go see rock shows at this club on Sunset, The Roxy, and we’d be so annoyed by all the people with their camera phones in the air, videotaping the whole damn thing. 

It’s bad enough having your view blocked.  The vibe suffered. 

Instead of being in the moment, singing and yelling and dancing, these douchebags were standing stock still, trying to “capture” something that in reality they were completely missing.

A great concert is more than just video and audio.  It’s the smell of the beer that sticks to your feet.  It’s the taste of victory when they play that song you hoped they’d play all night.  It’s feeling the sweat drip down your back from jumping up and down like a pogo stick.  I hoped our wedding might encompass different sensations, yet I appreciated the analogy.

But, but, but…

“Plus if I know I’m being recorded, I’m going to be too aware.  It will change how I am. Our wedding’s not supposed to be a performance.”  Well, no one wants that.

But, but but….How is being videotaped any different from being photographed?

“A photo is a stolen moment.  A video is ALL the moments, and that’s not necessarily a good thing.”  He tells me about the time he was asked to videotape a close friend’s ceremony, years ago.  “I don’t know if they watched the video, but if they ever do, all they’re going to remember is that damn crow that squawked the whole time they were saying their vows.”  Crow?  “Crow!”

But, but, but…Surely sometimes video gets it right.  Neil Armstrong’s moon walk.  Michael Jackson’s moon walk. 

“Video replaces memory – it becomes the only version of events.  Our wedding would be frozen forever, this one version that the video camera shot.   I want my memories.  No one puts stock in memory anymore!”  He’s right.  I know he’s right.

But, but, but…What if I have a head injury and get amnesia and only our wedding video will bring back my memory? 

“You’re not going to get amnesia, and if you do, I think our photo album will suffice.”

What do you think, reader?  Videotaping the wedding, pros and cons?

Dave might change his mind, he might not.  I’m not going to push it.  I’d rather he remembered how much fun it was planning our wedding together.

And I don’t want to be eating crow.

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