Back Off, Stay-at-Home Dads

Sometimes when I see stay-at-home dads being all competent and relaxed, hoisting their toddlers one-handed while making realistic elephant sounds, I feel a little threatened.

Outwardly, I’m supportive and feminist.   Inside, I’m more like Kit De Luca in Pretty Woman when she confronted that hooker for encroaching on her Hollywood Boulevard turf:

“Yo, the moms and me, we work Mickey Mouse.  We work Elmo.  We work Barney.  We work all the way down to Dora the Explorer.  This is our turf.  We got seniority.  You better get off our corner.”

The number of stay-at-home dads has doubled in the past decade, partly due to the economy.  But rather than bumbling through an awkward shift brought on by circumstances, the stay-at-home dads I know seem to be taking it all in stride.   Thriving, even.  Seriously, stay-at-home dads, your ability to just ease into the primary caregiver role like it’s a job folding sweaters at The Gap is making the rest of us look bad.  At least Michael Keaton’s Mr. Mom had the courtesy to feed the baby raw chili and overflow the washing machine.

Today’s SAHD’s make parenting seem too easy and fun.  And that’s no good for me or my stay-at-home mom job security.

My partner and I have a fairly traditional arrangement.   He wins the bread and I butter it, staying home with our 21-month-old daughter.  I like it this way.   But if I complain about anything – a missed nap, a melt-down, a chunky bout of car sickness – instead of sympathy and appreciation, I get wistful jealousy.  My man swears up and down he’d switch places with me “in a heartbeat.”  And that’s your fault, stay-at-home dads, what with your cute baby Bjorn photos on Facebook and your weekday games of tag at the park.

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  1. Posted October 29, 2012 at 10:16 pm | Permalink


    I wanted to stop by on your site and thank you for your humorous take on the threat of a stay-at-home dad. I enjoyed it immensely. I hope you liked my response as much as I liked writing it .

    We both know we have a lot of commonalities as well as differences. We are both parents and very devoted to our children is the largest similarity (and maybe we both of a good sense of humor)!

    I do a weekly feature on my blog asking parents to write a letter to their child/children in the future. The letter is to be directed to the day that they become a parent and what you might like to tell them. I would sincerely enjoy if you would consider doing one for my blog. If you are interested please let me know and I will send you the details.

    Thank you again for you insight! I truly did appreciate it.

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    • Posted October 29, 2012 at 10:18 pm | Permalink

      I really need to write a response when I am a little less tired. I had several errors in that one…please forgive them (who am I kidding I have a three-year-old son…I will never be less tired!!!) lol :)
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    • Posted October 29, 2012 at 10:47 pm | Permalink

      I’d love to. Send me the deets.